It’s been a while since I have visited the Cure Your Emetophobia & Thrive book. That’s also why this is only going to be one chapter, instead of my standard two. Amidst a move, I didn’t exactly have time to read, and now that I do, I wanted to ease back in. So let’s get right back into it.
I forgot just how fascinating this book is, and how informative it is. There is something really beneficial to understanding why we are the way we are, and for me it helps me gain a bit of control internally. That’s something that I think a lot of emets lack.
Chapter two is all about cognition, and so far it’s literally my favorite chapter in this book. Something that I’ve always tried to stress is that our minds are very, very powerful and it’s nice to see Rob Kelly making me feel like maybe I was so crazy (at least in that realm!). This chapter was right up my alley, and if I could I’d read books just about the power of our mind I probably would.
Now, on the the recap. Basically what Rob Kelly covers in this chapter is:
- Everyone sees the world differently, as each of us has our own set of beliefs that hold. Sometimes those beliefs are positive, sometimes they are negative; but they all shape our reality.
- Limiting or negative beliefs limit our world view and distort our perspectives and they will affect every part of our life – from work life to home life to everything in between.
- Our inner voice, or self-talk , is basically our imagination. Coue’s Law basically states that if there is ever a conflict between our conscious (see rational) mind and our imagination (see irrational, for anxiety sufferers), the imagination will usually win out, especially for those with anxiety.
- The imagination shapes our conscious mind, and it leaves us believing that our worries, fears and anxieties are true, even when there is no evidence to support it.
The exercise in this chapter is equally fascinating, and I’d recommend all of you to do it. It really shows the power of our mind, and how once we’ve convinced ourselves of something it can be extremely difficult to change that mindset.
When I started with CBT, one of the hardest parts of for me was changing how I viewed the world. This chapter is instrumental in showing the readers how those negative beliefs are formed, and why they happen. To me, that’s the biggest key. If you know how and why, negative beliefs seem more attackable. Is that a word? Well, it is now.
One of the things that really resonated with me was when he kind of hinted at self-fulfilling prophecy. He goes on to say that if we worry about something so constantly, eventually it will become a reality – thus furthering this idea that our negative beliefs are true.
The example he gives?
“Emetophobics tend to feel more nauseous that he average person. …So why do sufferers feel sick so often? What do you reckon happens when you think/worry/imagine to yourself, ‘Oh God, I hope I’m not ill today’? You are stating what you WANT to happen (that you are not ill today) BUT because your imagination is more powerful, you actually start to feel nauseous. As soon as you start to feel nauseous, you think ‘oh god, I’m going to be ill’ and create more anxiety and stress, so your anxiety only increases. … Try this: for the next thirty seconds, try NOT to think about a pink elephant. You can’t do it. It’s impossible. The moment you try NOT to do something, you immediately end up thinking or doing the thing you were trying not to do.”
This speaks volumes to me. Why? Well, because I almost never feel sick anymore, and it’s because I don’t spend my days hoping I won’t get sick. I just live my life.
Surprisingly, when you stop focusing on what scares you and just go after life it helps. I could get sick at anytime. That’s uncontrollable, so why sit around waiting for it to happen when I can enjoy the time I have? All I’ll do by sitting around and waiting is giving the fire more fuel, which means I’ll probably live my life feeling sick more than I should. That’s not how I want to live anymore, and this chapter explains how it happens.
Okay, so now, I think I’ve babbled enough. I have to answer the biggest question: But does it work? Well, seeing as how I’m not done yet, I think this chapter is another great step. It’s an amazing resource, and so far I’m impressed.
Got an idea for an anxiety tip, nausea tip, or some other wives tale you want to see me research and/or test for But Does It Work? Let me know in the comments! I take all suggestions and might just use them.
Until next time, Internet.
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Lastly, I run an Emetophobia Support Group on Facebook. Emetophobia is the intense and irrational fear of throwing up, and it is one struggle I am passionately engaged in. The group is a closed, by request only group to help facilitate sharing and support by all members. It is also private, meaning that the posts you and others make will not show up publicly in your newsfeed.