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#Fearless Family: It’s The Little Things In Love

By Cheryl Fazio #Fearless Family Writer I used to attach a great deal of significance to grand gestures.  I was in an abusive relationship and always waiting for my ex to make some unequivocal declaration of love that would dispel all my doubts; I was waiting for something that would somehow make the cheating, manipulation, and lies all magically okay.  Now I’ve been married almost a year and I have a new perspective on grand gestures. My relationship with my spouse, Senia, progressed incredibly naturally.  We met blogging about George R. R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire series.  Specifically, we met blogging (and writing erotic fanfiction) about probably the most objectively villainous family in the ASOIAF universe, House Bolton.  Most infamous for their practice of flaying their enemies, and occasionally wearing cloaks made from the skin, “Bolton fandom” was understandably a very niche subgroup of the larger ASOIAF fandom.   I found this subset at a fortuitous time. Apparently, I’d just missed a lot of drama involving clashes between Bolton fans and some …

Dear Thomas Sanders: Thank You.

Dear Thomas Sanders, I’m not sure if you’ll ever see this letter, but I sure hope one day you do. I’ve been trying to decide the best way to approach this, and it’s been a tough one. Do I talk about how much I love your videos (especially the Story Time and Disney Pranks)? Do I mention that your YouTube videos are some of the greatest content I’ve seen in a long time? It’d be easy to spend this letter fangirling about the amazing content you make, but I think for me this letter is much more than that. To make it simple, this letter is to say thank you. Thank you for all that you do, and I hope you realize just how much of an impact you have on people. I have never once felt out of place when watching your videos, or interacting with the fans you have. You’re so inclusive, right down to your pretty amazing “Guys, gals and nonbinary pals!” catch phrase. Could you call that a catchphrase? Well, I’m …

In The News: Philadelphia’s Gay Pride Flag

Let’s not sugar coat this: the LGBTQ community, and much of America, is in an uproar right now over Philly’s recent addition to the rainbow flag. If you haven’t heard, they added a brown and black stripe to the flag to help represent LGBTQ people of color. And I’m sure by now you’ve read countless articles both for and against this addition, and heard countless reasons for why each side thinks they are more right than the other. But, in case you weren’t aware of all that happening, we here at #Fearless wanted to take the time educate not just our readers, but ourselves, on why the change was made, and what it truly symbolized. So, instead of you rummaging around the internet in search of clues, leave that to the trusty people of #Fearless! The History of the LGBTQ Flag* So, in order to understand the importance of the rainbow flag we need to go back. Way back, to the 1970s when the first rainbow flag was widely accepted as a symbol of the …

Why I Decided To Come Out

I just spent about two hours trying to craft the perfectly written article for all the reasons why I decided to come out, what factors went in to deciding if I should, and all that jazz. I sat down to read what I wrote and immediately said I didn’t like it. I scrapped it all, and what you’re reading now is what I think is more important. You want to know why I came out? Because I wanted to. It’s really that simple, and all the long winded babbling for a more in depth reason seems unnecessary. I came out because I wanted to accept myself and be proud of who I was. That should be the end of the discussion, but that’d make for a pretty lame post, wouldn’t it? When I sat down to publish my Finding #Fearless article on pansexuality, I was nervous; nervous for a lot of reasons. There was the what if of what my friends and family would say (would they even care? had they always known?). Then there …

What Is Pansexuality & Other Important Questions!

I’ve been waiting for a burst of inspiration on the best way to approach this post. When I wrote my #Finding Fearless article on my pansexuality I briefly touched on the definition, but there were so many small points I wanted to mention that didn’t seem to fit in that story. So, I figured in honor of #Fearless’s first Pride Week, I’d go ahead and elaborate a little more on the points I didn’t get to mention before. Some of these points, while aimed specifically at pansexuality (because there’s not a lot out there in the ways of information) can be applicable to anyone in the LGBTQ+ community. Disclaimer: All information that I put into this article is either based on research I have done, or my own personal experiences. All I can do is talk from that perspective, so please leave me a comment if you feel that I got something wrong, or you would like to help explain something better that I did! What is pansexuality? Pansexuality (also known as omnisexuality) literally means an …

#Fearless Family: What To Expect From US Healthcare

By Lindsey LaForge #Fearless Family Writer Interacting with the healthcare system can be a daunting and anxiety provoking experience, especially if you’ve never done it on your own! Knowing what to expect ahead of time can help lessen some of that anxiety and uncertainty. This article discusses some of the common healthcare settings (in the United States) and answers some general questions to help you prepare! Doctor’s Offices How do I get a doctor? Do a quick internet search for your area or use your insurance company’s website to search for covered providers. Then, call and see if they are: a) accepting new patients, and b) accepting your insurance. If you don’t have insurance, some offices have programs in place to provide free or lower cost care. Don’t be afraid to call and ask! My doctor’s office has a doctor and a nurse practitioner/physician’s assistant. Which one should I see? In a primary care setting, either is fine! Nurse practitioners or physicians assistants can do most of the same things a doctor can do (do …

Thank You For A Successful MHAM Fundraiser!

I’m so very excited to be writing this post, because #Fearless’s Mental Health Awareness Month Fundraiser was a huge success. For those who did not know, from May 1 to May 31, #Fearless ran two fundraisers: one being a t-shirt sale, and the other being a local baking fundraiser. These two together made up a huge effort to raise as much money as possible for The Trevor Project, and organization that helps with crisis intervention and suicide prevention in LGBTQ+ teens. In total, we raised $445 for The Trevor Project, which doubled the amount of money that was made last year ($220). Not only was I completely floored at how well this did, it just proves that this world isn’t as bad as it sometimes seems. It’s my hope that next year, no matter what the vessel of fundraising is, that we can hit $500 for another great organization! I love to raise awareness and funds for organizations whenever I can. If I could, I’d donate almost all my money to charity, but I just …

Let’s Do Away With The Phrase “Normal People”

It should come as no shock to any of you that I’m a huge mental health advocate. I work very hard to promote the normality of mental health, and lifting those up who feel like they are less than or broken because of those struggles. I run a support group on Facebook for emetophobia, and every day I interact with people who feel like their phobia makes them worthless, disgusting and undeserving (but, spoiler alert: it doesn’t!). However, it hit me while I was commenting on a post recently how, despite my best efforts to normalize mental health, I too have fallen victim to making myself (and likely others) still feel less than. I do this by referring to non-emets (and non-anxiety sufferers) as “normal people” and I think it’s time we changed that. Because, really, what the hell is normal anyways? I once had an abnormal psych professor in college who challenged us to figure out what “normal” was. He told us normal is a lie (of course I’m sure he said it a …

#Fearless QOTW: June 12-June 18

This week’s QOTW was chosen by Chelsie S., owner of #Fearless. See why she chose it and what it is below: “This quote is one of those that just spoke to me when I saw it. When I look back on my life, I lived most of my days in a state of ‘I can’t do this because it’s too scary; too dangerous; too unknown.’ That kind of mindset meant I missed out on so many wonderful experiences, many of which I may never get again. It wasn’t until recently that I adopted a ‘I’d rather do it and regret it than never have tried at all’ kind of attitude. Since then, my entire world has changed. I’ve done so many new and exciting things, met so many people, and learned so much more about myself. Everything you could ever want for yourself is just one step beyond your comfort zone, but be careful: the moment you take that leap is the day you can never look back. You will be addicted to pushing your boundaries, …