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#Fearless Family: Why I Stayed

By CMT #Fearless Family Writer I had a good portion of this written, and then I erased it all. After a period of dwelling and analyzing, I realized that I was writing down every horrible thing he did to me and found myself explaining my actions to possible readers. I was writing out of anger and I wanted to drudge up a “She-woman Man Hater” club. I wanted strangers to hate him. I was writing from a place of anger and re-living every negative detail made it feel like it was happening all over again. I’ve spent two years trying to heal and forgive him and I was slowly undoing my progress. “Why did you stay? I tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen. Well, if it was me, I would have left before it started.” Whenever I try to talk about my experience about being in an abusive relationship, those are the words that I hear the most. No one likes to be abused and no one stays for fun. I can’t speak …

Everything You Need To Know About… Norovirus!

In probably one of the most requested articles from my support group of all time, I think I may finally possess enough knowledge to write an article about norovirus in a way that will truly do it justice! Over the years, I’ve learned enough about norovirus that I almost feel like I’ve gone to school to study it! Between my own personal research, talking with those who do actually study norovirus (and other viruses like it), and just having an understanding of science in general, I’ve amassed quite a large amount of knowledge on norovirus. As a former emetophobic (that still feels weird to say), knowing the facts about norovirus actually truly helped demystify it, and ultimately allowed me to feel calmer going into the winter months. Plus, this information is useful to have for non-emets as well, because families with kids tend to get the hit the hardest. I figured, why not do this article in the form of modified FAQ? All of the points below are frequently asked, and commonly unknown, questions that …

When will it be enough, America?

59 dead. 525 injured. 22,000 people victimized. Words cannot express how I felt Monday morning as I watched the coverage of the Las Vegas mass shooting unfold. My heart ached as the death and injury count steadily rose throughout the day, and I felt nothing but horror that a city that I had just recently departed now lies in the shadow of one of the worst terrorist attacks in recent history. On Monday, I took the day to avoid posting political rants because it was neither the time or place. Thousands of people experienced one of the most traumatic moments of their lives, and it would not have been appropriate to politicize their misfortune. I did, however, take to Facebook to tell everyone that they should use this as a firm reminder that life is short. That nothing is certain in this life, and you should tell the people you care about that you love them today, because there may be no tomorrow. However, today is a different day, and today I feel like speaking …

But Does It Work? Revisiting Norovirus Prevention Methods

Disclaimer: This information is strictly for the examination of the listed products and their effectiveness against NOROVIRUS. This article does not deny that there could be other, valid health benefits to any of these methods when done in moderation and under the direction of your doctor. So, over the course of a few months I did a couple But Does It Work? articles on very specific norovirus prevention methods. Specifically grape juice, apple cider vinegar and activated charcoal. I had a lot of knowledge at the time of writing those articles, but in 2017, I have more knowledge, and a better understanding of all these methods, and what it means for norovirus. In the effort to provide the best, most informative articles I can, I’ve decided to re-do all those articles, plus add a few more, to make one big comprehensive tell all on these commonly used norovirus prevention methods, and finally answer once in for all: But does it work? Method One: Grape Juice The Story: If you drink 3 glasses of grape juice every …

Finding #Fearless: The Epilogue, Part Two

This is part one of a two part follow up to my series Finding #Fearless. Names and locations have been changed to protect identities.  Epilogue, Part One | Epilogue, Part Two After only seeing my therapist twice in two months, I walked in to my appointment in September feeling different about being there. He asked me, “How are things going, let’s get an update on the past month?” I took a moment, and that’s when I told him: “I don’t know, I just don’t feel like I need to be here today.” That’s actually pretty freaking huge. About a month ago my therapist declared me recovered from emetophobia. It was a very odd transition, because I had literally just started getting back to a normal state of mind. And, not soon after that, I started to have anxiety flare ups again that made me start to question if I could really be recovered. Did he speak too soon, or did I bite the bait too quickly? What if I wasn’t ready to be deemed recovered and …

Finding #Fearless: The Epilogue, Part One

This is part one of a two part follow up to my series Finding #Fearless. Names and locations have been changed to protect identities.  Epilogue, Part One | Epilogue, Part Two This article does discuss topics that may be triggering to those struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts or self harm. If you ever feel like you need hope in a time of darkness, please call 1-800-273-8255. Usually epilogues find themselves nestled safely at the tail end of any published story that warrants one. They don’t typically surface many months or years down the road, but in the case of my story, the epilogue is a bit fashionably late. When I sat down to begin this site, I opened up the inner workings of my mind, and shared six unique, but intricately intertwined, stories of how #Fearless came to be more than just a webpage, but my way of life. I explored my childhood, my teenage years, my anxiety, my self harm, my sexuality, my fears and my hopes. This carefully crafted journey through my life …

#Fearless’s Simple Steps To Practicing Self-Care

Self-care is something I have written about thousands of time in the history of #Fearless, and it’s something that I will continue to write about for the rest of time because it’s so freaking important. Not just for people with mental health issues, but for every single human being on the planet. I don’t care if you’re 100% healthy, everyone gets stressed sometimes. Work, life and human responsibilities take a lot out of you. Dedicating 30 minutes, an hour, a day to focusing on what you know you need, versus your responsibilities, really can make a difference. In the past I’ve written about the importance of self-care but I’ve never really given you the key steps to finding what you need to be doing for self-care. I figured, in light of this, why not offer you my tips on how to find the best self-care routine for you! Step One: Assess the mental, physical and emotional state you’re currently in. Before proper self-care can be done, you have to be able to look inside yourself …

5 Things Millennials Need To Stop Feeling Bad About

I feel, as millennials, we get a lot of crap. Whether it’s headlines about what we’ve “killed” or for simply being “entitled” or “lazy”, we just can’t seem to get any positive praise from the generations before us. Yes, I’m looking at you, Baby Boomers. But, in the midst of all this chaos, it got me thinking how many times I’ve felt bad for simply making choices that seem to be bettering my mental, physical, emotional state because of said headline writers and Baby Boomers. The constant tug of war of doing what I know is right, versus doing things “the way it’s always been” has never been a bigger issue than it is now for millennials. And, to be honest, I’m downright tired of it, so here’s a list of 5 very important things that millennials (or really, anyone) need to stop apologizing for and feeling bad for, like, yesterday: Your relationship status. Listen here, fellow millennials. Just because your great, great, great Grandma Sally Mae was married at the age of 17 doesn’t …

#Fearless Family: Navigating Alcoholism’s Aftermath

By Alexa M. #Fearless Family Writer I am 26 years old, and a full blown millennial. I shared my wedding pictures on Facebook the day I got them, my snapchat is approximately 99% my dog and 1% my anxiety attacks, and I wanted Bernie Sanders to win the election. Part of the territory of being my age (and any age after me, really) is having friends discuss their longing to return back to the “good ol’ days”. You know, the days when their biggest worry was finishing their math homework, or whether that birthday invite was coming in the mail. Not working 40 hours a week or trying to pay the bills on time. After all, “adulting” is hard. But I can’t identify with that. Despite my mortgage, car insurance and student loan payments, I would never wish to go back to my childhood. You see, I’m an adult child of alcoholics. Both of my parents are alcoholic/addicts, and even though they are in recovery now, the events of my childhood still affect me to …

7 Awesome Anxiety Reducing Items (& Alternatives!) To Keep At Your Desk!

If you’re like me, working a desk job and having anxiety are two inevitabilities of life. I get up, go to work, and sometimes my buddy anxiety is right there with me. Other times, they show up after a stressful day, or right before a deadline. Either way, I’ve just learned that life with anxiety is going to happen, so why not be prepared? This got me thinking about ways I can best equip my desk with items that will help me in the midst of anxiety. While not a comprehensive list, I’ve compiled a list of seven awesome anxiety reducing items to keep at your desk, for your reading pleasure. Essential Oil Defuser: I feel like as an anxiety sufferer, essential oils are just part of my calm down process. I use Eucalyptus and Mint, together usually, to help me relax and get to my “calm place”. This “calm place” is a meditation I do to help me get grounded again during a panic attack, and that meditation is attached to those scents. So, having …