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#Fearless Quote of the Week: July 31-August 6

This week’s quote was chosen by Chelsie S., writer for (and owner of) #Fearless. See what it is and why she chose it below: “I think the our natural inclination as humans is to run away from what scares us. Why go towards something that is making us shake, tremble and cry? But, there is always a second option. There is flight, but there’s also fight. When faced with a struggle that seems to scare you, run to it, because it’s likely the option that is going to help you grow and achieve what you want in life. This quote has become something that I strive to live by, because for the longest time I would run from fear. But now? I look it in the face, and I walk to it. The funny thing about fear is as you run towards it, it shrinks and goes away. Be bold and be strong in the face of fear, and you’ll be surprised what the world will give back to you.” Do you want to be …

#Fearless Quote of the Week: July 24-July 30

This week’s quote was chosen by Chelsie S., writer for (and owner of) #Fearless. See what it is and why she chose it below: “This quote is something I feel like I need constant reminder of, especially in the realm of mental health. I think it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we’re not moving fast enough, or not making enough progress, but every journey is different. You could take the tiniest steps, or spend several days contemplating each step, but as long as you keep pushing yourself towards your goal, and never give up, you’re doing all you can to help yourself. Don’t judge yourself based on how fast someone else recovered – your speed does not matter. Be gentle on yourself, you’re only human after all.” Do you want to be featured on #Fearless? It’s as simple as sending in your favorite inspirational quote, poetry verse, movie quote or song lyric, and explaining why you love it! To submit a quote, please visit the #Fearless QOTW submission page, or email the …

#Fearless Family: My Partners Perspective of My Journey

By Amy C. #Fearless Family Writer I don’t know about other emotional abuse survivors, but I often look at my current romantic partner – my husband to be, no less – and think, “How can you put up with me? Why do you stay with me, even when I have my wobbles? Hasn’t it been an awful chore?! Why do you stay and put yourself through that?!” It’s a scar left by living with someone who made it clear they found me tedious, boring, and stupid, and still influences my thought patterns to this day. The difference now is that I don’t let it take me down. I recognise them and do something about them, so you know what I did about these questions? I asked them. I’m not at home to repressing and hiding my questions, imagining the worst, and living with crippling doubt and self-loathing anymore. If I want to know what my love really thinks, I ask him, safe and confident in the knowledge that he will answer honestly and respectfully…and often …

#Fearless Family: You Can Love Again After Emotional Abuse

By Amy C. #Fearless Family Writer Three years ago today, I was in hell. I’d been in a relationship for almost four and a half years, and three and a half of them had been emotionally abusive. I didn’t realise that I had been abused until it was over; sometimes we are too close to ourselves to see what we have become. I had become a grey, drab, genderless thing, constantly unwell and tired and run-down, and trying to weakly shuffle through each day as quietly and unobtrusively as possible. I was a nervous wreck, constantly hyper-vigilant, and hyper-aware that everything I said, everything I did, and sometimes literally every move I made, would be sneered at and ridiculed by the person who would then turn around and say he loved me. I was 29 years old and going to bed at 7:30 p.m. every night through sheer emotional exhaustion, and a desire to avoid my abuser’s notice. He made it clear he was happier when I was not around, anyway, and I was desperately …

Introducing: Dear Fearless…

In an effort to keep this site new and diverse, we here at #Fearless are very excited to announce the newest addition to our weekly content: Dear Fearless… What is Dear Fearless? Simply put, it’s our version of an advice column. You, our readers, will submit questions anonymously to our advice columnist, Fearless, and then Fearless will give the best advice they can based on the information you gave them. Each week (likely Saturdays at 10:00 a.m. ET), we’ll publish a new advice column and hopefully help the world one article at a time. Once we have a couple questions lined up, we will start publishing them. We will post only when we receive requests for advice, but we hope to make this a weekly column very soon! So, if you want to submit to our new column, here’s what you need to know: All questions will be anonymous, and we suggest you use a creative pen name to sign off as so you know your question is being answered! If you can’t think of …

#Fearless Quote of the Week: July 10-16

This week’s quote was chosen by Chelsie S., writer for (and owner of) #Fearless. See what it is and why she chose it below: “When I look back on my life, this quote is the epitome of where I’ve come and it resonates with me far more than I ever intended. My life has drastically changed, yet I am stronger, more independent, more me, than I have ever been in my entire life. I find that each day I am changing, and I’m discovering a new part of myself that has been there all this time, yet been carefully hidden behind fear, anxiety and self doubt. I am not the same person I was a year ago, let alone a week ago, and for the first time in my life that doesn’t entirely scare me. Change is inevitable, so it might as well be for the better.” Do you want to be featured on #Fearless? It’s as simple as sending in your favorite inspirational quote, poetry verse, movie quote or song lyric, and explaining why …

#Fearless Family: When You Think You Know Best For Someone With Mental Illness

By Face to Face With The Sky #Fearless Family Writer I like to think of myself as a compassionate person. The type who puts myself in other people’s shoes. I’m there for my friends, and when needed I’m a shoulder to cry on. But sometimes, I’m not the sweet, compassionate person I think I am. Last year, my close friend was diagnosed with a mental health condition. We’re in touch almost constantly, sharing feelings and swapping ideas. As someone who has also been through my share of mental illness, I find it easy to have compassion for her. Until she makes a choice I don’t agree with. When that happens, I feel my blood boiling. Gone is the compassionate understanding friend. Instead I’m angry. How could she do such a thing? Doesn’t she see she’s only making her recovery harder? Once I lashed out and gave her a lecture about what she “should” do instead. How do you think that went over? You guessed it: she felt alienated and I felt like was talking to …

But Does It Work? Alcohol & Food Poisoning Prevention

The following conversation you are about to read is in no way exaggerated or altered in any way; it probably literally went just like this: “I looooove shrimp,” said Jane Doe. “Oh, I don’t eat seafood, to me it seems far too risky to eat. Plus, every time a family member has gotten food poisoning it’s from seafood.” “Well, I eat shrimp without fear because I take a shot of alcohol before I eat any seafood,” exclaimed Jane Doe. “What? Why does that matter?” I was completely flabbergasted as to what that correlation was. “You don’t know?” she said. “They say if you take a shot of alcohol, like vodka for example, it helps kill any bacteria that could make you sick in your stomach! I do it every time I eat seafood, and so far? I haven’t been sick.” Now, if you know me, not only was I insanely skeptical, but I started smirking while thinking my favorite phrase: correlation does not imply causation. Beyond all that, if this was something that was so …

#Fearless Quote of the Week: July 3-July 9

This week’s quote was chosen by Chelsie S., writer for (and owner of) #Fearless. See what it is and why she chose it below: “This week is a very special week for me, so this quote is a bit more personal than it usually is. In just 4 days, I’ll have been with my husband, partner in crime and best friend for 10 years total. We started dating July 7, 2007, and it’s been the best 10 years of my life – so far. This quote, when I saw it, rang so true to me because when we started dating it was the first time in a very long time I felt truly comfortable and safe being myself. Now, at almost 10 years, this quote is even more true than it was back then. He has helped me discover myself, after a lifetime of being who I thought the world wanted me to be. He’s been by my side the entire journey, and I have nothing but gratitude and love to give him in return. …

#Fearless Family: Coping Does Not Equal Better

By Leigh #Fearless Family Writer I suffer migraines. That sentence could end with any sort of chronic illness or pain. Arthritis. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Fibromyalgia. Cancer. The list goes on. I suffer… Many of us use this terminology because of the danger of using a different one. The real sentence is: I cope with migraines. You cope with pain. You cope with fatigue. You pick yourself up day after day and you get done what needs doing. You do either the same amount as someone who doesn’t deal with chronic illness or pain or you manage what you are capable of at that point in time. The reason “I cope” is so dangerous is that it begins a flood of well-wishing that becomes a tipping point into expectation. “You’re doing great!” “I’m so glad to see how well you’re doing!” “It’s fantastic how well you’ve managed to keep up!” “We’re so proud of how well you’ve done!” These feel great at the start, but after a while they become a burden. Soon it can become: …