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Why My Husband & I Have Chosen To Be Childless

Let’s just cut to the chase: my husband and I don’t plan on having kids. That could change, but right now, we’re choosing to stay childless (excluding furchildren) for the foreseeable future. There are a lot of factors that go into this decision, and I’ll get to those in a minute, but I want to spend the next paragraph or so delivering a very important message: Nothing you say will change our minds. Seriously. There is nothing you can say or do that will sway us to change our decision regarding children. We’ve had many, many discussions about this, and we’ve explored just about every single scenario out there. We, as a couple, always talked about having kids, but things change, and right now this is the best decision for us. And, while no one who makes this same decision owe an explanation, I’m going to lay out just a few of the reasons my husband and I have decided to stay childless: My Mental Health I’ve heard this so many times when I put …

2019 is the New 2018

I’m going to let you in on a little secret: I’m writing this post in November of 2018. I know it seems insane to write an article laying out my hopes and dreams for 2019 in 2018, but you know what? It’s my story and I can do as a please. Too sassy? I’ll try to tone it down. When I got into 2018 I swore it was going to my year. I had this feeling that 2018 was going to be a good one, and even though, at the time of writing this, I have about 2 months before the end, I can safely to say I wasn’t totally wrong. For starters, I’ve been injured, literally, for almost every month except one. I had a broken foot from December 2017 until February of 2018, rebroke it at the end of February 2018, and it didn’t heal and recover until June 2018. Then, in July 2018 I fell on my thumb and hurt it. At the time of writing, I’m still in a splint, the …

Oh, Hello Again

It’s been a while, hasn’t it. A long while.   Usually in these instances I’d write some long, drawn out apology and metaphorical explanation for why I haven’t been posting (and I definitely DIDN’T already do that once and delete it all), but this time I won’t bother. The last time I posted was October 10, 2017 at 9:34 a.m. It was an article giving you all the information I had in my little brain about norovirus. But, even though the posts stopped going live, I didn’t stop writing. The last post that I created, and never published, was January 19, 2018 at 10:26 a.m. The title? 2018: The Year of the Chelsie. I started off that post with saying that this was going to be my year, I could feel it. The pantone color of the year is Ultra Violet, and it was already half way through the month of January and it just seemed like good things were coming my way. I can’t tell you if that’s still the case, and to be …

#Fearless Family: Why I Stayed

By CMT #Fearless Family Writer I had a good portion of this written, and then I erased it all. After a period of dwelling and analyzing, I realized that I was writing down every horrible thing he did to me and found myself explaining my actions to possible readers. I was writing out of anger and I wanted to drudge up a “She-woman Man Hater” club. I wanted strangers to hate him. I was writing from a place of anger and re-living every negative detail made it feel like it was happening all over again. I’ve spent two years trying to heal and forgive him and I was slowly undoing my progress. “Why did you stay? I tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen. Well, if it was me, I would have left before it started.” Whenever I try to talk about my experience about being in an abusive relationship, those are the words that I hear the most. No one likes to be abused and no one stays for fun. I can’t speak …

Everything You Need To Know About… Norovirus!

In probably one of the most requested articles from my support group of all time, I think I may finally possess enough knowledge to write an article about norovirus in a way that will truly do it justice! Over the years, I’ve learned enough about norovirus that I almost feel like I’ve gone to school to study it! Between my own personal research, talking with those who do actually study norovirus (and other viruses like it), and just having an understanding of science in general, I’ve amassed quite a large amount of knowledge on norovirus. As a former emetophobic (that still feels weird to say), knowing the facts about norovirus actually truly helped demystify it, and ultimately allowed me to feel calmer going into the winter months. Plus, this information is useful to have for non-emets as well, because families with kids tend to get the hit the hardest. I figured, why not do this article in the form of modified FAQ? All of the points below are frequently asked, and commonly unknown, questions that …

When will it be enough, America?

59 dead. 525 injured. 22,000 people victimized. Words cannot express how I felt Monday morning as I watched the coverage of the Las Vegas mass shooting unfold. My heart ached as the death and injury count steadily rose throughout the day, and I felt nothing but horror that a city that I had just recently departed now lies in the shadow of one of the worst terrorist attacks in recent history. On Monday, I took the day to avoid posting political rants because it was neither the time or place. Thousands of people experienced one of the most traumatic moments of their lives, and it would not have been appropriate to politicize their misfortune. I did, however, take to Facebook to tell everyone that they should use this as a firm reminder that life is short. That nothing is certain in this life, and you should tell the people you care about that you love them today, because there may be no tomorrow. However, today is a different day, and today I feel like speaking …

But Does It Work? Revisiting Norovirus Prevention Methods

Disclaimer: This information is strictly for the examination of the listed products and their effectiveness against NOROVIRUS. This article does not deny that there could be other, valid health benefits to any of these methods when done in moderation and under the direction of your doctor. So, over the course of a few months I did a couple But Does It Work? articles on very specific norovirus prevention methods. Specifically grape juice, apple cider vinegar and activated charcoal. I had a lot of knowledge at the time of writing those articles, but in 2017, I have more knowledge, and a better understanding of all these methods, and what it means for norovirus. In the effort to provide the best, most informative articles I can, I’ve decided to re-do all those articles, plus add a few more, to make one big comprehensive tell all on these commonly used norovirus prevention methods, and finally answer once in for all: But does it work? Method One: Grape Juice The Story: If you drink 3 glasses of grape juice every …

Finding #Fearless: The Epilogue, Part Two

This is part one of a two part follow up to my series Finding #Fearless. Names and locations have been changed to protect identities.  Epilogue, Part One | Epilogue, Part Two After only seeing my therapist twice in two months, I walked in to my appointment in September feeling different about being there. He asked me, “How are things going, let’s get an update on the past month?” I took a moment, and that’s when I told him: “I don’t know, I just don’t feel like I need to be here today.” That’s actually pretty freaking huge. About a month ago my therapist declared me recovered from emetophobia. It was a very odd transition, because I had literally just started getting back to a normal state of mind. And, not soon after that, I started to have anxiety flare ups again that made me start to question if I could really be recovered. Did he speak too soon, or did I bite the bait too quickly? What if I wasn’t ready to be deemed recovered and …

Finding #Fearless: The Epilogue, Part One

This is part one of a two part follow up to my series Finding #Fearless. Names and locations have been changed to protect identities.  Epilogue, Part One | Epilogue, Part Two This article does discuss topics that may be triggering to those struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts or self harm. If you ever feel like you need hope in a time of darkness, please call 1-800-273-8255. Usually epilogues find themselves nestled safely at the tail end of any published story that warrants one. They don’t typically surface many months or years down the road, but in the case of my story, the epilogue is a bit fashionably late. When I sat down to begin this site, I opened up the inner workings of my mind, and shared six unique, but intricately intertwined, stories of how #Fearless came to be more than just a webpage, but my way of life. I explored my childhood, my teenage years, my anxiety, my self harm, my sexuality, my fears and my hopes. This carefully crafted journey through my life …

#Fearless’s Simple Steps To Practicing Self-Care

Self-care is something I have written about thousands of time in the history of #Fearless, and it’s something that I will continue to write about for the rest of time because it’s so freaking important. Not just for people with mental health issues, but for every single human being on the planet. I don’t care if you’re 100% healthy, everyone gets stressed sometimes. Work, life and human responsibilities take a lot out of you. Dedicating 30 minutes, an hour, a day to focusing on what you know you need, versus your responsibilities, really can make a difference. In the past I’ve written about the importance of self-care but I’ve never really given you the key steps to finding what you need to be doing for self-care. I figured, in light of this, why not offer you my tips on how to find the best self-care routine for you! Step One: Assess the mental, physical and emotional state you’re currently in. Before proper self-care can be done, you have to be able to look inside yourself …