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Dear Thomas Sanders: Thank You.

Dear Thomas Sanders, I’m not sure if you’ll ever see this letter, but I sure hope one day you do. I’ve been trying to decide the best way to approach this, and it’s been a tough one. Do I talk about how much I love your videos (especially the Story Time and Disney Pranks)? Do I mention that your YouTube videos are some of the greatest content I’ve seen in a long time? It’d be easy to spend this letter fangirling about the amazing content you make, but I think for me this letter is much more than that. To make it simple, this letter is to say thank you. Thank you for all that you do, and I hope you realize just how much of an impact you have on people. I have never once felt out of place when watching your videos, or interacting with the fans you have. You’re so inclusive, right down to your pretty amazing “Guys, gals and nonbinary pals!” catch phrase. Could you call that a catchphrase? Well, I’m …

Why I Decided To Come Out

I just spent about two hours trying to craft the perfectly written article for all the reasons why I decided to come out, what factors went in to deciding if I should, and all that jazz. I sat down to read what I wrote and immediately said I didn’t like it. I scrapped it all, and what you’re reading now is what I think is more important. You want to know why I came out? Because I wanted to. It’s really that simple, and all the long winded babbling for a more in depth reason seems unnecessary. I came out because I wanted to accept myself and be proud of who I was. That should be the end of the discussion, but that’d make for a pretty lame post, wouldn’t it? When I sat down to publish my Finding #Fearless article on pansexuality, I was nervous; nervous for a lot of reasons. There was the what if of what my friends and family would say (would they even care? had they always known?). Then there …

What Is Pansexuality & Other Important Questions!

I’ve been waiting for a burst of inspiration on the best way to approach this post. When I wrote my #Finding Fearless article on my pansexuality I briefly touched on the definition, but there were so many small points I wanted to mention that didn’t seem to fit in that story. So, I figured in honor of #Fearless’s first Pride Week, I’d go ahead and elaborate a little more on the points I didn’t get to mention before. Some of these points, while aimed specifically at pansexuality (because there’s not a lot out there in the ways of information) can be applicable to anyone in the LGBTQ+ community. Disclaimer: All information that I put into this article is either based on research I have done, or my own personal experiences. All I can do is talk from that perspective, so please leave me a comment if you feel that I got something wrong, or you would like to help explain something better that I did! What is pansexuality? Pansexuality (also known as omnisexuality) literally means an …

The Right Kind of What If Thinking

I know it might seem shocking, but there actually is a good kind of what if thinking. People with anxiety might be audibly scoffing at me right now, rolling their eyes and thinking, “Please, what can be good about constant what if thinking?” What if thinking is a natural consequence to anxiety. You are constantly battling with your own mind, wondering if you did a good enough job, if people like you, if you’re going to be sick (in the case of fellow emetophobics), or if you’re going to die on the plane you’re traveling on. And while that method of what if thinking can be exhausting, detrimental and extremely annoying, there is actually a constructive way to have what if thoughts, but they likely won’t come naturally. So I’m challenging you to start asking yourself: what if these thoughts aren’t true? Now, I feel like many anxiety sufferers are immediately thinking they know these thoughts aren’t true. They are rooted in anxiety, so they are irrational and likely false. But, when I say to …

What If It Comes Back?

I will frequently sit on the counters of my kitchen to talk to my husband about my problems. Strangely enough, it only seems to be those conversations that produce counter sitting. Perhaps I’ve just found a way for my husband to immediately hone in on serious conversations. Well, one evening in particular I plopped myself atop the counter, and blurted out: “So what happens if this comes back?” He was completely confused because this question had come out of nowhere, at least to him. In my mind, however, I had already been reeling for hours on end. “What if…what…comes back?” he asked. I replied to him, my anxieties and fears about depression, death, and losing control. “Well, you’ll handle it, just like you always do.” He was right, after all, that if my anxieties came back I would just manage them. I knew how to make myself relax, how to rationalize with the crazy voices in my head that made me believe lies and irrationalities. But it was in that moment I realized something tremendous: …

Your Trauma Is Valid. Period.

By a show of hands, how many people have vented to a friend or family member and received the following response or some variation of it: “Yeah, but it could always be worse…” Now, just for kicks, raise your other hand if you have been the one who has said that to someone in an attempt to make them feel better. If you don’t have either one of your hands raised, you’re either lying or you and your friends are both a gift too sacred for this earth. A part of me really hopes it’s the second option. Even I have uttered the phrase in my past, so I have both hands held high right now. Your guess is as good as mine as to how this is being written. Cue the pity slow clap and crickets. No, it’s fine, that was pretty bad. I only hold a moderate amount of shame for saying it, but I’m going to own it. I’m a dad joke machine. But I digress… I grew up in an environment where my emotions, …

Five Pro Tips For Travel Induced Anxiety & Phobias!

A long, long time ago on a YouTube channel that won’t be named, I created a list of tips about how to manage travel induced anxiety. I made it in an adrenaline fueled rush about two hours before I left for my own flight, and honestly it probably could have been done better, but you live and learn…and hopefully forget. But, in honor of my own flight back east to see family, I figured it might be a good time to rehash the old, and make it new here on #Fearless. In fact, by the time you read this I’ll likely be in South Carolina, enjoying the warm sun and great time with family! I live by these tips, and if I didn’t have them tucked in my metaphorical tool belt, I likely wouldn’t be able to travel at all.

Finding #Fearless: But Still I Rise

This is the final part of a six part series called Finding #Fearless. It’s the story of my life, my journey and the struggles I’ve endured that have made me who I am today. All names and places have been changed to protect the people involved. To read the rest of the series, please click below: Part One | Part Two | Part Three | Part Four | Part Five | Part Six If I had to choose an anthem to define the last half of 2016 that carries into 2017, it would be, without a doubt, Katy Perry’s Rise. The moment I heard it, I fell in love. It was one of those songs that I blared on my worst days, and sang myself almost hoarse to on many occasions. It’s the kind of song that makes you feel like the Holy Spirit is moving through you, revitalizing your very essence, and cleansing your soul of impurities. Or… maybe that’s just me. No matter how the song makes you feel, this song means something to …

Finding #Fearless: More Pan than Peter & Twice As Magical

This is the fourth part of a six part series called Finding #Fearless. It’s the story of my life, my journey and the struggles I’ve endured that have made me who I am today. All names and places have been changed to protect the people involved. To read the rest of the series, please click below: Part One | Part Two | Part Three | Part Four | Part Five | Part Six Why do we as humans feel that the best way to confirm our personal identity is to give ourselves a label? It’s an interesting compulsion we have, and one that I think is more subconscious than conscious. Having a name for something we feel, believe or value means that we can meet like-minded people and find a place in the world where we may otherwise feel lost. Labels, while they can divide us or create issues that may not have existed without them, also do something really great for our world: they unite us behind a cause.