Let’s just cut to the chase: my husband and I don’t plan on having kids. That could change, but right now, we’re choosing to stay childless (excluding furchildren) for the foreseeable future. There are a lot of factors that go into this decision, and I’ll get to those in a minute, but I want to spend the next paragraph or so delivering a very important message: Nothing you say will change our minds. Seriously. There is nothing you can say or do that will sway us to change our decision regarding children. We’ve had many, many discussions about this, and we’ve explored just about every single scenario out there. We, as a couple, always talked about having kids, but things change, and right now this is the best decision for us. And, while no one who makes this same decision owe an explanation, I’m going to lay out just a few of the reasons my husband and I have decided to stay childless: My Mental Health I’ve heard this so many times when I put …
By Brittany Legg #Fearless Family Writer When you hear about someone having postpartum depression, you probably think of the stories on the news about women harming their children. These are extreme cases, though they do happen. I went through the experience of having post-partum depression (PPD) after the birth of my daughter, and never laid a hand on her. While I was thrilled that she had finally arrived, after a few weeks of being home something just didn’t feel right. I was constantly worried something was going to happen to her. I couldn’t sit still and just enjoy bonding with her. At first, I just believed that it was due to being a new mom for the first time, and also to my extreme lack of sleep. So, I started doing a little research online, mostly to find others who had felt this way. Turns out, PPD is more common than you think.
After writing my Deciding On Motherhood article I realized I made a statement that I want to clarify. The article was primarily based on my feelings and what it meant for me to be a mom, but I wanted to make sure I took the time very quickly to clarify one point. Emet moms are women that should be praised and admired because they took the extra step to decide that regardless of their phobia, they would go through the morning sickness, they would handle all the spit up and puke regardless of the panic it caused them.
A very common discussion that my husband and I have had since getting married is starting a family. We both know we want children, and hands down it’s the one thing we know our families want as well. However, about a year into our marriage I had a shocking revelation: I didn’t know if I could actually handle having children. It’s not because I didn’t think I couldn’t handle the sleepless nights, the stress and the other “take the bad with the good” situations that would come with children, but because kids get sick. A lot. And I’m talking puke.