All posts tagged: I Am #Fearless

All About Adult ADHD: The FAQ’s You Want & Need To Know, Part 1

Let me talk to you about why this series of articles is coming into being. It all started on July 28, when I decided that I would go live on my personal Facebook page discussing Adult ADHD. I have done so many live videos in the past on my mental health, that I didn’t think twice about it. Then, July 29 at 4:15 p.m. I decided now was the time to act. So, I set up my phone and all of a sudden I was gripped with panic about the idea of going live. Two not so successful attempts later (since my husband says failed is the wrong word) where I panic stopped the live video, I am here, deciding on giving you an important FAQ article about Adult ADHD. I’ve been very vocal about my ADHD journey on Facebook for a few months now, and I want to believe it’s doing something. Even if it’s just allowing me to briefly celebrate my own successes or give information as I learn it. My goal is …

7 Important Reminders I Wish I Knew When I First Started Meds For ADHD

Hello again, adult ADHDers. We are on to part two of my series discussing different aspects of adult ADHD. And, for this next post I am going to talk about one of the easily more abstract (at least, for me it was!) parts of ADHD treatment: medication. Medication was something very new for me. In all my years, I had never taken meds to manage mental health or chronic neurological issues (such as ADHD). I had always had a “I can do it without meds” attitude, because for anxiety it was something that I knew was beatable. When I started exploring ADHD, and began doing research, I found that medication was the one of the best options for managing symptoms and I reluctantly started talking to my husband about it. Once I decided to take that leap, I had no idea what to expect, and the first doctor I saw made the experience even more terrifying (I’ll get to that later). So, I decided to write this post to give you a list of the …

Let’s Talk About Good Days With ADHD

Hello, fellow adult ADHDers. If you’re here, you’re probably like me; newly diagnosed, or wondering if your symptoms are in fact ADHD and you can’t find the info you need. It could be scary, but if you’re like me and in a major hyperfocus cycle of finding any and all information on ADHD, I want to welcome you to the first part of a multi part series that touches on some of the topics I wish I had information for when I was first navigating the tricky world that is an adult ADHD diagnosis. I want to make something very clear from the get go: I’m not a doctor. My information does not replace any information you could get from a trained professional. But, what I do have is anecdotal information based on what I’ve experienced, and responses based on what I’ve seen through my own personal research. So, without further ado, I want to discuss my first topic: Good Days with Adult ADHD. What does a good day look like with ADHD? If you …

7 Normal Human Tasks that ADD Makes Really, Really Hard

Just last month I was officially diagnosed with Inattentive ADD (ADD-I). It’s something that honestly sums up most of my life’s struggles, and can wrap up weird “shows some symptoms that are almost this but aren’t this” traits. Specifically involving my OCD tendencies with hyper focus, obsessions, and overall ruminating, if you’re wondering. So, in honor of this momentous occasion, I’ve decided to share with you 7 of the many tasks that ADD makes really, really hard for me. Any task that requires me to take something somewhere that’s outside the home. I literally cannot tell you that if something requires me to take something somewhere, it’s likely never going to get done. I should know better than to offer to mail things to people at this point, because I know it’ll get lost to the void. The motivation to get up and take a package to the post office, or forms back to the respective place of business is at negative numbers. I truly can’t be bothered, which is extra annoying because it’s a …

Fearless Babbles: Morality Debates

Am I truly a good person? It’s a thought I have fairly regularly, and it’s honestly something that I can’t seem to let go of. What is “good”? What is “bad”? What is right and wrong? I’m not trying to get too philosophical here, and I’m not trying to fish for compliments, but my moral worth – is that even a thing? – is something I call into question a lot. Why that is probably comes down to two very distinct factors: my childhood trauma and anxiety. Both of which play very important roles in my adult life, and it’s something I’m still struggling to fully get a grasp on. Growing up under the hands of narcissism and alcoholism, I’ve learned exactly what NOT to be. Which means I’ve also learned exactly what NOT to associate with in order to keep my mind and emotional well being thriving. If I think a person is even remotely similar to my family, I tend to withdraw and isolate. I find that my mind goes into self preservation, …

Fearless Babbles: Change

Sometimes I sit down to write posts and I have no direction. In all honesty, those posts don’t usually end up on my site. Why? Because I spend a lot of time staring into my computer screen screaming. It’s… just something I’m used to by now. But today I decided to flip the script, and I’m just going to write whatever comes to mind because why wouldn’t I just give it a shot? I feel like, in many ways, I am always thinking. I have so much going on, whirring by in my brain that I struggle to pinpoint a single subject. I have 4000 ideas in my head, none of which are fully formed and it can sometimes be overwhelming trying to stop the spinning to get something out there. I find it’s one of the biggest hurdles I have with my blog. I either sit down and get three articles written, or I spend my time staring into the abyss, wishing I could just do SOMETHING. I think this might be called ADD …

How The Artist Formerly Known As Dirk Strangely Helped Me Heal

As I walked into the crowded artist’s ally at DragonCon in Atlanta, GA, I was overwhelmed. It was my first con, ever, and it was the first time I had ever been given the privilege of covering a con quite like DragonCon. I was there as press for The Daily Quirk (now known as So Fetch Daily), but on this particular day I had nothing going on. Armed with nothing but a love for art, my husband, and a limited amount of cash I walked in awestruck by the amazing talents that had gathered there. After walking aisles upon aisles, I came across a booth selling art that was Tim Burton-esque; dark and twisted, amazingly drawn, and full of characters reinvented in the eye of the artist. The booth belonged to Dirk Strangely. I stopped at his booth and was immediately drawn to his style, specifically his Strangely Cats and his Alice in Wonderland series. I think that year I vowed that I’d come back to every DragonCon just so I could see him and …

Why My Husband & I Have Chosen To Be Childless

Let’s just cut to the chase: my husband and I don’t plan on having kids. That could change, but right now, we’re choosing to stay childless (excluding furchildren) for the foreseeable future. There are a lot of factors that go into this decision, and I’ll get to those in a minute, but I want to spend the next paragraph or so delivering a very important message: Nothing you say will change our minds. Seriously. There is nothing you can say or do that will sway us to change our decision regarding children. We’ve had many, many discussions about this, and we’ve explored just about every single scenario out there. We, as a couple, always talked about having kids, but things change, and right now this is the best decision for us. And, while no one who makes this same decision owe an explanation, I’m going to lay out just a few of the reasons my husband and I have decided to stay childless: My Mental Health I’ve heard this so many times when I put …

2019 is the New 2018

I’m going to let you in on a little secret: I’m writing this post in November of 2018. I know it seems insane to write an article laying out my hopes and dreams for 2019 in 2018, but you know what? It’s my story and I can do as a please. Too sassy? I’ll try to tone it down. When I got into 2018 I swore it was going to my year. I had this feeling that 2018 was going to be a good one, and even though, at the time of writing this, I have about 2 months before the end, I can safely to say I wasn’t totally wrong. For starters, I’ve been injured, literally, for almost every month except one. I had a broken foot from December 2017 until February of 2018, rebroke it at the end of February 2018, and it didn’t heal and recover until June 2018. Then, in July 2018 I fell on my thumb and hurt it. At the time of writing, I’m still in a splint, the …

Everything You Need To Know About… Norovirus!

In probably one of the most requested articles from my support group of all time, I think I may finally possess enough knowledge to write an article about norovirus in a way that will truly do it justice! Over the years, I’ve learned enough about norovirus that I almost feel like I’ve gone to school to study it! Between my own personal research, talking with those who do actually study norovirus (and other viruses like it), and just having an understanding of science in general, I’ve amassed quite a large amount of knowledge on norovirus. As a former emetophobic (that still feels weird to say), knowing the facts about norovirus actually truly helped demystify it, and ultimately allowed me to feel calmer going into the winter months. Plus, this information is useful to have for non-emets as well, because families with kids tend to get the hit the hardest. I figured, why not do this article in the form of modified FAQ? All of the points below are frequently asked, and commonly unknown, questions that …