All posts tagged: I Am #Fearless

7 Normal Human Tasks that ADD Makes Really, Really Hard

Just last month I was officially diagnosed with Inattentive ADD (ADD-I). It’s something that honestly sums up most of my life’s struggles, and can wrap up weird “shows some symptoms that are almost this but aren’t this” traits. Specifically involving my OCD tendencies with hyper focus, obsessions, and overall ruminating, if you’re wondering. So, in honor of this momentous occasion, I’ve decided to share with you 7 of the many tasks that ADD makes really, really hard for me. Any task that requires me to take something somewhere that’s outside the home. I literally cannot tell you that if something requires me to take something somewhere, it’s likely never going to get done. I should know better than to offer to mail things to people at this point, because I know it’ll get lost to the void. The motivation to get up and take a package to the post office, or forms back to the respective place of business is at negative numbers. I truly can’t be bothered, which is extra annoying because it’s a …

Fearless Babbles: Morality Debates

Am I truly a good person? It’s a thought I have fairly regularly, and it’s honestly something that I can’t seem to let go of. What is “good”? What is “bad”? What is right and wrong? I’m not trying to get too philosophical here, and I’m not trying to fish for compliments, but my moral worth – is that even a thing? – is something I call into question a lot. Why that is probably comes down to two very distinct factors: my childhood trauma and anxiety. Both of which play very important roles in my adult life, and it’s something I’m still struggling to fully get a grasp on. Growing up under the hands of narcissism and alcoholism, I’ve learned exactly what NOT to be. Which means I’ve also learned exactly what NOT to associate with in order to keep my mind and emotional well being thriving. If I think a person is even remotely similar to my family, I tend to withdraw and isolate. I find that my mind goes into self preservation, …

Fearless Babbles: Change

Sometimes I sit down to write posts and I have no direction. In all honesty, those posts don’t usually end up on my site. Why? Because I spend a lot of time staring into my computer screen screaming. It’s… just something I’m used to by now. But today I decided to flip the script, and I’m just going to write whatever comes to mind because why wouldn’t I just give it a shot? I feel like, in many ways, I am always thinking. I have so much going on, whirring by in my brain that I struggle to pinpoint a single subject. I have 4000 ideas in my head, none of which are fully formed and it can sometimes be overwhelming trying to stop the spinning to get something out there. I find it’s one of the biggest hurdles I have with my blog. I either sit down and get three articles written, or I spend my time staring into the abyss, wishing I could just do SOMETHING. I think this might be called ADD …

How The Artist Formerly Known As Dirk Strangely Helped Me Heal

As I walked into the crowded artist’s ally at DragonCon in Atlanta, GA, I was overwhelmed. It was my first con, ever, and it was the first time I had ever been given the privilege of covering a con quite like DragonCon. I was there as press for The Daily Quirk (now known as So Fetch Daily), but on this particular day I had nothing going on. Armed with nothing but a love for art, my husband, and a limited amount of cash I walked in awestruck by the amazing talents that had gathered there. After walking aisles upon aisles, I came across a booth selling art that was Tim Burton-esque; dark and twisted, amazingly drawn, and full of characters reinvented in the eye of the artist. The booth belonged to Dirk Strangely. I stopped at his booth and was immediately drawn to his style, specifically his Strangely Cats and his Alice in Wonderland series. I think that year I vowed that I’d come back to every DragonCon just so I could see him and …

Why My Husband & I Have Chosen To Be Childless

Let’s just cut to the chase: my husband and I don’t plan on having kids. That could change, but right now, we’re choosing to stay childless (excluding furchildren) for the foreseeable future. There are a lot of factors that go into this decision, and I’ll get to those in a minute, but I want to spend the next paragraph or so delivering a very important message: Nothing you say will change our minds. Seriously. There is nothing you can say or do that will sway us to change our decision regarding children. We’ve had many, many discussions about this, and we’ve explored just about every single scenario out there. We, as a couple, always talked about having kids, but things change, and right now this is the best decision for us. And, while no one who makes this same decision owe an explanation, I’m going to lay out just a few of the reasons my husband and I have decided to stay childless: My Mental Health I’ve heard this so many times when I put …

2019 is the New 2018

I’m going to let you in on a little secret: I’m writing this post in November of 2018. I know it seems insane to write an article laying out my hopes and dreams for 2019 in 2018, but you know what? It’s my story and I can do as a please. Too sassy? I’ll try to tone it down. When I got into 2018 I swore it was going to my year. I had this feeling that 2018 was going to be a good one, and even though, at the time of writing this, I have about 2 months before the end, I can safely to say I wasn’t totally wrong. For starters, I’ve been injured, literally, for almost every month except one. I had a broken foot from December 2017 until February of 2018, rebroke it at the end of February 2018, and it didn’t heal and recover until June 2018. Then, in July 2018 I fell on my thumb and hurt it. At the time of writing, I’m still in a splint, the …

Everything You Need To Know About… Norovirus!

In probably one of the most requested articles from my support group of all time, I think I may finally possess enough knowledge to write an article about norovirus in a way that will truly do it justice! Over the years, I’ve learned enough about norovirus that I almost feel like I’ve gone to school to study it! Between my own personal research, talking with those who do actually study norovirus (and other viruses like it), and just having an understanding of science in general, I’ve amassed quite a large amount of knowledge on norovirus. As a former emetophobic (that still feels weird to say), knowing the facts about norovirus actually truly helped demystify it, and ultimately allowed me to feel calmer going into the winter months. Plus, this information is useful to have for non-emets as well, because families with kids tend to get the hit the hardest. I figured, why not do this article in the form of modified FAQ? All of the points below are frequently asked, and commonly unknown, questions that …

When will it be enough, America?

59 dead. 525 injured. 22,000 people victimized. Words cannot express how I felt Monday morning as I watched the coverage of the Las Vegas mass shooting unfold. My heart ached as the death and injury count steadily rose throughout the day, and I felt nothing but horror that a city that I had just recently departed now lies in the shadow of one of the worst terrorist attacks in recent history. On Monday, I took the day to avoid posting political rants because it was neither the time or place. Thousands of people experienced one of the most traumatic moments of their lives, and it would not have been appropriate to politicize their misfortune. I did, however, take to Facebook to tell everyone that they should use this as a firm reminder that life is short. That nothing is certain in this life, and you should tell the people you care about that you love them today, because there may be no tomorrow. However, today is a different day, and today I feel like speaking …

But Does It Work? Revisiting Norovirus Prevention Methods

Disclaimer: This information is strictly for the examination of the listed products¬†and their effectiveness against NOROVIRUS. This article does not deny that there could be other, valid health benefits to any of these methods when done in moderation and under the direction of your doctor. So, over the course of a few months I did a couple But Does It Work? articles on very specific norovirus prevention methods. Specifically grape juice, apple cider vinegar and activated charcoal. I had a lot of knowledge at the time of writing those articles, but in 2017, I have more knowledge, and a better understanding of all these methods, and what it means for norovirus. In the effort to provide the best, most informative articles I can, I’ve decided to re-do all those articles, plus add a few more, to make one big comprehensive tell all on these commonly used norovirus prevention methods, and finally answer once in for all: But does it work? Method One: Grape Juice The Story: If you drink 3 glasses of grape juice every …

Finding #Fearless: The Epilogue, Part One

This is part one of a two part follow up to my series Finding #Fearless. Names and locations have been changed to protect identities.¬† Epilogue, Part One | Epilogue, Part Two This article does discuss topics that may be triggering to those struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts or self harm. If you ever feel like you need hope in a time of darkness, please call 1-800-273-8255. Usually epilogues find themselves nestled safely at the tail end of any published story that warrants one. They don’t typically surface many months or years down the road, but in the case of my story, the epilogue is a bit fashionably late. When I sat down to begin this site, I opened up the inner workings of my mind, and shared six unique, but intricately intertwined, stories of how #Fearless came to be more than just a webpage, but my way of life. I explored my childhood, my teenage years, my anxiety, my self harm, my sexuality, my fears and my hopes. This carefully crafted journey through my life …