All posts tagged: mental health

Let’s Talk About Good Days With ADHD

Hello, fellow adult ADHDers. If you’re here, you’re probably like me; newly diagnosed, or wondering if your symptoms are in fact ADHD and you can’t find the info you need. It could be scary, but if you’re like me and in a major hyperfocus cycle of finding any and all information on ADHD, I want to welcome you to the first part of a multi part series that touches on some of the topics I wish I had information for when I was first navigating the tricky world that is an adult ADHD diagnosis. I want to make something very clear from the get go: I’m not a doctor. My information does not replace any information you could get from a trained professional. But, what I do have is anecdotal information based on what I’ve experienced, and responses based on what I’ve seen through my own personal research. So, without further ado, I want to discuss my first topic: Good Days with Adult ADHD. What does a good day look like with ADHD? If you …

7 Normal Human Tasks that ADD Makes Really, Really Hard

Just last month I was officially diagnosed with Inattentive ADD (ADD-I). It’s something that honestly sums up most of my life’s struggles, and can wrap up weird “shows some symptoms that are almost this but aren’t this” traits. Specifically involving my OCD tendencies with hyper focus, obsessions, and overall ruminating, if you’re wondering. So, in honor of this momentous occasion, I’ve decided to share with you 7 of the many tasks that ADD makes really, really hard for me. Any task that requires me to take something somewhere that’s outside the home. I literally cannot tell you that if something requires me to take something somewhere, it’s likely never going to get done. I should know better than to offer to mail things to people at this point, because I know it’ll get lost to the void. The motivation to get up and take a package to the post office, or forms back to the respective place of business is at negative numbers. I truly can’t be bothered, which is extra annoying because it’s a …

Fearless Babbles: Morality Debates

Am I truly a good person? It’s a thought I have fairly regularly, and it’s honestly something that I can’t seem to let go of. What is “good”? What is “bad”? What is right and wrong? I’m not trying to get too philosophical here, and I’m not trying to fish for compliments, but my moral worth – is that even a thing? – is something I call into question a lot. Why that is probably comes down to two very distinct factors: my childhood trauma and anxiety. Both of which play very important roles in my adult life, and it’s something I’m still struggling to fully get a grasp on. Growing up under the hands of narcissism and alcoholism, I’ve learned exactly what NOT to be. Which means I’ve also learned exactly what NOT to associate with in order to keep my mind and emotional well being thriving. If I think a person is even remotely similar to my family, I tend to withdraw and isolate. I find that my mind goes into self preservation, …

Literally Just A Bunch Of ADHD Memes That Are Hella Relateable

Need I say more? Here’s a list of some of the best ADHD memes we could conjure up, because who doesn’t love a good laugh on behalf of our mental health. 1.               2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. If you would like to email #Fearless, you can send any questions, concerns, comments or suggestions to contact@hashtagfearless.com. We do our best to respond within 48 hours, but if for some reason we cannot get back to you in that time frame, we promise we will always respond as soon as possible. You can also find us on any of the following social media sites: Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram! Lastly, we run an Emetophobia Support Group on Facebook. Emetophobia is the intense and irrational fear of throwing up, and it is one struggle we are passionately engaged in. It is a closed, by request only group to help facilitate sharing and support by all members. It is also private, meaning that …

6 Things An Emetophobic In Recovery Wants Struggling Emets to Know

Hey you. Yes you – the emetophobic reading these words. Please know that whether you have just discovered this crippling phobia has a name, or you’re at your lowest of lows, I’ve been there. I’ve walked in your foot steps and I know things are so hard right now. You may be really stuck, or perhaps you’re just beginning to explore how to make your life better but haven’t found anything that’s made an impact. I’m here to tell you, it’s okay, I get you, and I want to help you in the only way I know how: by offering advice from someone who’s been there, done that. So, here’s what I feel like you need to know as you begin to process your emetophobia: You Are Your Only Obstacle I think when many people are in the grips of emetophobia, they have a very strong external locus of control. This essentially means that we are convinced that external factors and stimuli control us; and that those external things determine our success and safety in …

Fearless Babbles: Change

Sometimes I sit down to write posts and I have no direction. In all honesty, those posts don’t usually end up on my site. Why? Because I spend a lot of time staring into my computer screen screaming. It’s… just something I’m used to by now. But today I decided to flip the script, and I’m just going to write whatever comes to mind because why wouldn’t I just give it a shot? I feel like, in many ways, I am always thinking. I have so much going on, whirring by in my brain that I struggle to pinpoint a single subject. I have 4000 ideas in my head, none of which are fully formed and it can sometimes be overwhelming trying to stop the spinning to get something out there. I find it’s one of the biggest hurdles I have with my blog. I either sit down and get three articles written, or I spend my time staring into the abyss, wishing I could just do SOMETHING. I think this might be called ADD …

How The Artist Formerly Known As Dirk Strangely Helped Me Heal

As I walked into the crowded artist’s ally at DragonCon in Atlanta, GA, I was overwhelmed. It was my first con, ever, and it was the first time I had ever been given the privilege of covering a con quite like DragonCon. I was there as press for The Daily Quirk (now known as So Fetch Daily), but on this particular day I had nothing going on. Armed with nothing but a love for art, my husband, and a limited amount of cash I walked in awestruck by the amazing talents that had gathered there. After walking aisles upon aisles, I came across a booth selling art that was Tim Burton-esque; dark and twisted, amazingly drawn, and full of characters reinvented in the eye of the artist. The booth belonged to Dirk Strangely. I stopped at his booth and was immediately drawn to his style, specifically his Strangely Cats and his Alice in Wonderland series. I think that year I vowed that I’d come back to every DragonCon just so I could see him and …

Why My Husband & I Have Chosen To Be Childless

Let’s just cut to the chase: my husband and I don’t plan on having kids. That could change, but right now, we’re choosing to stay childless (excluding furchildren) for the foreseeable future. There are a lot of factors that go into this decision, and I’ll get to those in a minute, but I want to spend the next paragraph or so delivering a very important message: Nothing you say will change our minds. Seriously. There is nothing you can say or do that will sway us to change our decision regarding children. We’ve had many, many discussions about this, and we’ve explored just about every single scenario out there. We, as a couple, always talked about having kids, but things change, and right now this is the best decision for us. And, while no one who makes this same decision owe an explanation, I’m going to lay out just a few of the reasons my husband and I have decided to stay childless: My Mental Health I’ve heard this so many times when I put …

2019 is the New 2018

I’m going to let you in on a little secret: I’m writing this post in November of 2018. I know it seems insane to write an article laying out my hopes and dreams for 2019 in 2018, but you know what? It’s my story and I can do as a please. Too sassy? I’ll try to tone it down. When I got into 2018 I swore it was going to my year. I had this feeling that 2018 was going to be a good one, and even though, at the time of writing this, I have about 2 months before the end, I can safely to say I wasn’t totally wrong. For starters, I’ve been injured, literally, for almost every month except one. I had a broken foot from December 2017 until February of 2018, rebroke it at the end of February 2018, and it didn’t heal and recover until June 2018. Then, in July 2018 I fell on my thumb and hurt it. At the time of writing, I’m still in a splint, the …