All posts tagged: recovery

6 Things An Emetophobic In Recovery Wants Struggling Emets to Know

Hey you. Yes you – the emetophobic reading these words. Please know that whether you have just discovered this crippling phobia has a name, or you’re at your lowest of lows, I’ve been there. I’ve walked in your foot steps and I know things are so hard right now. You may be really stuck, or perhaps you’re just beginning to explore how to make your life better but haven’t found anything that’s made an impact. I’m here to tell you, it’s okay, I get you, and I want to help you in the only way I know how: by offering advice from someone who’s been there, done that. So, here’s what I feel like you need to know as you begin to process your emetophobia: You Are Your Only Obstacle I think when many people are in the grips of emetophobia, they have a very strong external locus of control. This essentially means that we are convinced that external factors and stimuli control us; and that those external things determine our success and safety in …

Finding #Fearless: The Epilogue, Part Two

This is part one of a two part follow up to my series Finding #Fearless. Names and locations have been changed to protect identities.  Epilogue, Part One | Epilogue, Part Two After only seeing my therapist twice in two months, I walked in to my appointment in September feeling different about being there. He asked me, “How are things going, let’s get an update on the past month?” I took a moment, and that’s when I told him: “I don’t know, I just don’t feel like I need to be here today.” That’s actually pretty freaking huge. About a month ago my therapist declared me recovered from emetophobia. It was a very odd transition, because I had literally just started getting back to a normal state of mind. And, not soon after that, I started to have anxiety flare ups again that made me start to question if I could really be recovered. Did he speak too soon, or did I bite the bait too quickly? What if I wasn’t ready to be deemed recovered and …

Recovery Is Not Easy

Recovery is not easy. Anyone who tells you that recovery is easy is a liar, and that’s coming from someone who considers herself an eternal optimist. I’m an advocate for empowering people through lifting them up, showing them the strength they possess to face the upcoming battles of mental health recovery; but sometimes being honest is better than being optimistic. Recovery is not easy, and sometimes it’s downright scary. It’s unnerving, it’s stressful, it’s exhausting. It’s a constant uphill battle, it’s slipping and falling, and having to set boundaries with people that you know aren’t helping you achieve your goal. It’s finding a way to know what you need to be your best self, all while maintaining some sense of normalcy. Recovery is finding the courage to get up and fight the same demons that beat you down yesterday, approaching with a new tactic and still failing. It’s realizing that sometimes to win a war, you have to fight the same battle over and over again, on different days, in different settings. When I started …

#Fearless Quote of the Week: July 24-July 30

This week’s quote was chosen by Chelsie S., writer for (and owner of) #Fearless. See what it is and why she chose it below: “This quote is something I feel like I need constant reminder of, especially in the realm of mental health. I think it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we’re not moving fast enough, or not making enough progress, but every journey is different. You could take the tiniest steps, or spend several days contemplating each step, but as long as you keep pushing yourself towards your goal, and never give up, you’re doing all you can to help yourself. Don’t judge yourself based on how fast someone else recovered – your speed does not matter. Be gentle on yourself, you’re only human after all.” Do you want to be featured on #Fearless? It’s as simple as sending in your favorite inspirational quote, poetry verse, movie quote or song lyric, and explaining why you love it! To submit a quote, please visit the #Fearless QOTW submission page, or email the …

#Fearless Family: Recovery Is A Lifelong Journey

By Cristy Hernandez #Fearless Family Writer “Mental illness is not a choice, but recovery is.” That’s the powerful phrase that I came across a couple of days after I decided to restart therapy this April. These words may seem simple and self-explanatory to most, but to me those words resonated so strongly. Even though I did not understand why that phrase was important at that moment, it remained very present in my mind. Starting therapy again meant I was back in therapy full-time. Full-time meant I was not only in therapy in my literal 1-hour sessions, but in all aspects of my everyday life. I listened to my therapist and applied the skills I had learned with her. I took my medications and stopped fighting my psychiatrist. I took care of myself; my hygiene, my eating and sleeping habits, and I worked on the problems I have that kept me from moving on with my life. Not even a week later? I burned out. I was exhausted. I didn’t leave my room for 2 weeks. I was down …

What You Need To Know… Before You Start Treatment for Mental Health

One of the most popular questions I get from people when I talk about recovery is: what is therapy and what do I need to know about it before starting? Therapy is just a broad, umbrella term for many specific types of techniques and methods, but it doesn’t go without it’s own set of important know how’s. So, I compiled a list of what I feel is the most important know how’s of therapy, and what it is you need to know prior to starting. A great patient-provider relationship is a necessity. Therapy takes a lot of time and trust, and having good chemistry with the therapist you’re seeing is step one in making sure you reap the most benefits. Find a therapist who really listens, and one that you can tell they do. Every therapist is trained to listen, but great therapist hears you and make your needs, wants and concerns a priority.  Think of it this way. You wouldn’t stay with your significant other if they were always doing the opposite of what you asked, …

#Fearless Family: Physical vs. Mental Addiction

By Trey Dyer Writer for DrugRehab Most people are familiar with the term addiction. It’s the nonmedical term for a substance use disorder, which is a chronic brain disease that induces compulsive activity despite health, social and legal consequences. Addiction is more prevalent in American society than ever before. The country is facing the worst drug epidemic in its history. According to the 2015 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, more than 7.7 million Americans ages 12 or older have a substance use disorder. Though the majority of people know what the concept of addiction is, most do not realize the complexity of this disease. Substance use disorders do not solely affect individuals on a mental level. Physical dependency often plays an important role in the development of a substance use disorder. Physical and mental symptoms contribute to an individual’s substance use disorder, though there are some key differences between mental and physical addiction. Mental Addiction: Behaviors and Substances Mental addiction is characterized by the brain’s drive to use drugs or alcohol. Drugs and alcohol …

#Fearless Quote of the Week: May 1-May 7

This week’s QOTW was chosen by Chelsie S., owner of #Fearless. See why she chose it and what it is below: “There is so much that goes into recovery of any kind, but the biggest obstacle you will face is yourself. Healing cannot begin unless you are willing to confront what scares you. This quote speaks to me because it’s so easy to say ‘I want to get better!’ but so many people don’t know what getting better means. If you refuse to confront your struggles, you cannot heal and recovery, so this quote reminds me to always face my fears because progress can’t be made until I do.” Do you want to be featured on #Fearless? It’s as simple as sending in your favorite inspirational quote, poetry verse, movie quote or song lyric, and explaining why you love it! To submit a quote, please visit the #Fearless QOTW submission page, or email the quote, the author and why you chose it to contact@hashtagfearless.com. We can’t wait to see what makes you feel #Fearless! If you …

Anxiety Is Just An Untrained Dog

For all who know me, you know I have a 2 year old German Shepherd that I love will all my heart. His name is Ronin, and I literally couldn’t imagine my life without him. He’s fun, hyper, smart, and an absolute cuddle bug. Sure, he’s sometimes a little pushy with his love, but I’d rather take a paw to the face occasionally than have no dog at all. When my husband and I first got Ronin we knew instantly that getting him the proper training was important. With a dog like him, not understanding how to control him could spell disaster. Think Marley & Me kind of disaster, and it’s something we couldn’t afford to risk. We were first time homeowners, and the idea of our house being destroyed by our new dog was a little unsettling.